If sex toys have magnificent advantages for couples with healthy sexuality, it may not be suggested to brandish them without warning.Here is what you need to know to avoid horsesome in the bedroom.
According to Kanica Saphan, sexologist and owner of the sexological sofa, the toys are suitable for duets (or trios, we do not judge) who have active sexuality and, above all, who have well -open conversations.
Trying something different, it can spice up the antics.
But "we will agree that for many people, talking about sex toys or sexuality is very annoying", she nuance.
Because too often, according to her, the toys are wrongly seen as a way of saving a couple who beats the wing or a relationship that is lacking in spice.
According to Ms. Saphan, the problems in bed often come from much more complex situations, as a lack of communication or openness to the other.
The use of sex toys is not a magic solution to serious torque problems, as is a dressing on the elbow cannot adjust pneumonia."When people talk about sex toys to a sexologist [considering them as miraculous remedies], it's as if we were talking to a plaster or stamp pharmacist," she image.
In some cases, getting out of an unexpected dildo can otherwise be seen as a sexual failure by the other.
"If it is not discussed beforehand, it can come to bring out insecurity, thoughts like:" Isn't I enough? ", I said Ms. Saphan.
Indeed, life is not a porn movie.It is not everyone who is excited or enthusiastic when sex toys appear in the bed.
If you want to bring it to the bedroom and your sex life is harmonious, you must absolutely make an appointment with the loved one to discuss it.
"Often, it is to arrive and say:" Hey, I would like to talk about something related to sexuality, we can talk about it now, otherwise let me know when you are ready or that you are available ",advises Ms. Saphan.It allows you to be emotionally ready for this discussion.»»
According to the sexologist, it is important to talk about it without embarrassment, while respecting the limits and opinions of her lover.e.
"We must first know how our partner feels," she says.And you have to be in mode I listen to and I welcome what the other says. Il n’y a pas d’autres manières d’en parler»», affirme-t-elle.
And if everyone is happy and happy, then we can continue.Otherwise ... a little visit to the sexologist can help you unlock many things in bed.
