Ménégism: Do you know this "soft" libertine practice?

Spice your sex life, say goodbye to routine, revive the flame ... while remaining faithful!The reasons that push a couple to embark on libertinism are multiple.Do you know mixture, one of the many swingers practices?

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Ménégism: What is it?

Metting is above all an intimate relationship with several partners.At first glance, it may resemble swinging.However, the nuance is large: the mixers do not engage in penetration with people outside the couple.Indeed, this sexual practice is limited to exchanging caresses, looks, kisses with other partners.This kind of flirt is above all a question of aesthetics, sensuality, the beauty of naked bodies that mix each other.It is an ideal mode of sexuality for couples attracted by swinging who do not dare to take the plunge.This type of relationship also makes it possible to emancipate yourself from a phallocentric vision of sex, which would like to penetrate your or its partner to be essential to give it pleasure or excite it.Mémisters really want to distinguish themselves from swingers.Indeed, they deny any connection with exhibitionism, voyeurism, or any other link with pornography.

According to Sebastien Garnero, sexologist, the main reasons that push couples to practice mixture are "a search for sensations, different pleasures, the implementation of sexual fantasies of group practices".

Among the mixers, there are two schools: those who accept genito-buccal exchanges, and those who exclude them.Thus, some followers practice oral sex: cunnilingus, fellatio, anulingus ... and others not.Indeed, this practice involves a form of penetration and is therefore located on the border of swinging.

The same goes for mutual masturbation which is common in certain groups of mixers and absent elsewhere.According to the specialist, this practice is however "widely practiced and accepted".As in all carnal relationships, it is important to agree on what is acceptable or not before venturing.

Sometimes mixing relationships are transformed into coastal relations.At the height of their excitement, the "official" partners are then found to continue to make love as a couple, while staying with other libertines and libertines.

Mixing was born in the 18th century.Practice experienced its boom in the 1990s, while AIDS appeared.It allowed libertines to exchange partners without risking transmitting or catching HIV.Thus, this sexuality is based on limited and prudent erotic relationships.Originally, these were intellectual elites which engaged in clandestine to mix.

Does this type of libertinism include risks linked to sexually transmitted infections?A priori, the very origin of the practice is based on the desire to avoid the transmission of viruses ... What about?

Ménégism: What advice before starting?

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Sebastien Garnero provides some advice to couples who would like to embark on the adventure of mixture.As with any intimate relationship, the pillar is obviously mutual consent.You have to be sure that the two members of the couple are fully ready for this type of practice ".There is a particular pitfall in libertinism: "Very often, one of the members of the couple tends towards libertinism and tries to bring the other on this ground", explains the sexologist."If it is only a question of pleases the other, it may induce difficulties in posteriori, even destabilize the couple in their foundations," continues the professional.

For most couples, feelings, intimacy and sexual fidelity range from peers: it is therefore extremely important to agree on the "contract" of mixture to which you wish to join.Mutual masturbation?Oral sex?How many partners?Make sure you ask yourself the right questions before you start.

For mixing, or for any libertine practice, the consequences vary according to the couples.Doctor Sebastien Garnero listed some of them.On the one hand, they can be positive "if everyone is clear with this experience, and if the couple does by mutual agreement with the idea of exploring another approach to sexuality".

Nevertheless, they can be negative "if the conditions are not met between the two partners of the couples, and are ambiguous or unclear; risk of jealousy, weakening of the couple".Indeed, the sexologist indicates that one of the members of the couple can end up feeling manipulated, humiliated and even traumatized by this experience.One of the risks is also that one of the partners ends up becoming disinterested in couple sexuality or even, to a lesser extent, "to enter a sexual addition path".

Ménégism: How to protect yourself from STIs?

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If mixing should not be a problem at first, watch out for libertines who practice oral sex.Indeed, many diseases and infections can be propagated during genito-buccal reports.This is why it is imperative to protect yourself.

A dental dike is a rectangle or a square, generally in latex.Very flexible, it is the only way to avoid contagion during cunnilingus or anulingus.To use it, the rules resemble those of the condom.You open the packaging with your hands and not with the teeth so as not to damage what is inside.Place the dike on the vulva or anus of your partner.Do not reuse it under any pretext.

Blowjobs are also infection vectors.Mixerists must therefore use a condom if they wish to lend themselves to it, even more if they have several partners outside their couple.

If you regularly practice mixing with the same people, you can all do your blood tests to be sure that you do not have sexually transmitted infection.These tests are to be renewed with each unprotected sex with a new partner.You will be able to indulge in your mixed melting relationships without fear and without limit.

Libertinage: What are the different practices?

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Libertinage is a full philosophy.According to the expert, "we call libertine or libertine practices a conception of essentially recreational sexuality to free manners oriented exclusively towards the search for excitement and sexual pleasure outside or in addition to a form of monogamysentimental, in the presence or not of the usual partner ".It is not just a "free" relationship, but a vision of the dissociated sex of romantic feelings.In this sense, there are an infinity of practices that involves sex with many, which you may have never heard of...

Candaulism is a sexual practice which consists in feeling excitement by looking at his or partner having a carnal relationship with one or more third people.This mode of libertinism is based on the compersion, that is to say the pleasure of seeing the loved one fulfilled and happy, here on the erotic level.

Appreciated relationship of certain mixers, coastal side is to make love with its “official” partner in front of other couples in the same room.The other duos, also engage in sexual relations.This helps keep exclusivity while enjoying the pleasure of seeing and being seen.

Better known, triolism is vulgarly called “three plan”;It consists in integrating a third person into a couple intercourse.This practice is also adopted by singles who love love for several.

Of course, there are plethora of other libertine relationships and relationships with several are not always limited to three.Sebastien Garnero recalls in particular the existence of swinging of evenings or clubs, group sexual orgy, gang bang as well as bondage practices.